Preface by Vann Joines,
Southeast Institute For Group and Family Therapy.
Why do people create so much drama in their lives?
Some of the answers are: It is exciting. It gets us
attention. It prevents boredom. It makes life
interesting. It structures our time. It confirms certain
beliefs we have about ourselves, others, and the world.
Freud pointed out that it is a way of attempting to undo
something that has been upsetting in our life by
replaying it over and over again in the hope of having
it turn out differently the next time. The only problem
is that it often creates pain, and is a way of
sabotaging ourselves from experiencing the happiness we
In this book, Greg Boyce offers us some interesting
alternatives to a life of drama. He boldly entitles it
No More Drama. He helps us see that pursuing drama is a
decision. It is up to us. We can decide instead to live
a life free of self-created drama.
Drawing on the work of Eric Berne, M.D., a psychiatrist
who created a powerful and effective approach to therapy
call ‘Transactional Analysis’ and Steve Karpman, M.D.,
another psychiatrist, who was one of Berne’s early
students and who developed the concept of the ‘Drama
Triangle’, Greg follows in Berne’s and Karpman’s
tradition of a simple, direct, no-nonsense approach to
therapy. He shows us how we can take charge of our lives
and get out of the drama roles of persecutor, victim,
and rescuer, and live authentic, self-directed lives.
Drama is actually a cheap substitute for what is really
fulfilling for us as human beings. What we all desire in
some part of ourselves is to experience true intimacy -
to open ourselves up fully to another human being and to
have them open themselves up fully to us as well – to
understand and be understood. Because we are often
afraid to allow ourselves to be that vulnerable, we
settle for drama.
I invite you to follow Greg through the following pages
of this intriguing book to learn about the kinds of
drama that most of us engage in daily and how we can put
a stop to it. By following the many helpful and
practical suggestions he offers, we can begin to take
charge of our lives and live an exciting and fulfilling
life of true joy, drama-free!