Foreward by Clark S. Reed, M.Div., TSTA
Teaching and Supervising Transactional Analyst
Optimal Psychotherapy

It is a daunting task for me to write just a few lines for Greg’s new work about ‘drama’ with the elephant in the room (Eric Berne) being ever present because the author shifts the emphasis from ‘games’ to ‘drama’ and makes the focal point ‘the drama triangle,’ which Steve Karpman is purported to have sketched at an NFL football game years ago.

I like this shift as for me it makes increasing awareness of ‘faces’ (a word which Greg uses) simple and understandable. I personally wish he had not used Bern’s classical games such as ‘Why don’t you….Yes But.’ etc. to introduce his theory; I was distracted unnecessarily.

Having said the above, in addition to re-awakening interest in viewing these painful, predictable sequences in a simple geometric figure (a triangle) I find Greg’s subsequent six chapters making an important contribution to the body of knowledge: by defining intimacy in a creative way as being hopeful and profound; by giving specific useful examples of how to transact to avoid drama (Living in a Drama Free Zone); sharing the trio of behaviors to eliminate for a drama free life (stop discounting, make clear contracts, and ask for what we want in a clear understandable way); a summary section in each chapter that makes review easy and understandable; and positing in his final chapter where living a drama free life eventuates in a special calm loving death.

The alternative to drama according to Greg is intimacy. His definition: Intimacy is the capacity to relate to another person in an honest emotionally open equal and caring way that includes transparency, vulnerability and reciprocity. I believe Greg has a point here. Intimacy is the only way to structure time that makes a drama free life desirable.

Some theorists in the past have doubted that it could be achieved. This is an important point Greg is proposing and makes the read important if it were the only point. There are more important points however.

Gregory`s final chapter, A Dramatic Finish portrays importantly how the outcome of getting unhooked from the ‘addiction’ to drama (my term) provides the opportunity to develop skills and ability to choose a calm peaceful ending that is beautiful and victorious. His question, ‘How do you want to live in your final days as a human?’ resonates with me and his invitation to take 100% responsibility for how you live every moment is the necessary prescribed elixir.

Thank you Gregory.