Who's Responsible For My Life?

You Are: Each of us is faced with the challenge of authoring our own lives. How your life is going for you at this very moment may not be how you want it to go tomorrow, and as the author only you can write a new tomorrow. You might be affected by the actions of others, and you might be affected by other outside forces; even so, it's you who will decide if and how to turn your life around.

Some of life's problems are so easy they're hardly worth the label as a problem; but other challenges are so difficult, they require psychiatric medications or hospitalization. Most people are in between, and that's where psychotherapy fits in. It can help. But to get that help you need to admit one thing ... you need to admit you don't know it all!

Most people don't think they can change, don't want to, or want someone else to do the changing. Which means ...the problem remains!

Even a gifted and skilled psychotherapist cannot make another person change. We just invite them to.

Your Life Is Yours: If you’re not feeling the way you want to feel. If you’re not doing what you want to be doing. If you’re not living the way you want to live. Take responsibility for yourself. Get some help. Find a therapist.

If your car is running rough, or has trouble starting in the morning, do you hope it just fixes itself, or do you take it to a pro for service?

If you want to get your car repaired you go to pro called a mechanic. If you want to have a tooth pulled you go to a pro called a dentist. If you want to have a legal document written you go to a pro called a lawyer. And sure, lots of amateurs can fix cars, write wills, and pull teeth (ouch). And amateurs can offer gobs of advice for your personal problems too; but a psychotherapist is a pro. It’s a full time life long study and passion with me, and most of my colleagues.

And Only Yours: Treat yourself with respect. If you’re ‘running rough’ get yourself to a pro for a tune up, a service check, an oil change or whatever. Don’t live your life on two cylinders when you’ve got four, six, or eight!